Too Nervous to Stay Hard? Information on Performance Anxiety

For young, inexperienced men, one of the most common sources of erection problems is, as mentioned in the general concerns on staying hard, performance anxiety. In this post I will elaborate on the problem, and, importantly, tell you how to overcome it.

Every man wants to be a great lover. It's how we want to view ourselves. The man women dream of. Don Juan. After chasing and flirting with the object of your desire, you finally have her in bed. The moment you have dreamed of. And the moment where all your desire to please her, and the desire to be a great lover, can work against you.

Suddenly unwanted thoughts pop into your head. What if I can't get hard? What if I can't stay hard? What if I'm not big enough? What if I don't last long enough? The list is endless and the fears become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because your thoughts are on all the bad things that might happen, you are not focusing on the amazing woman before you, and the wonderful sex you could be having. As a consequence the blood is not flowing to your little soldier and he remains limp. What's even worse, if this happens once, the next time you have the opportunity, your thoughts might still be on the time you failed. This way, one bad experience, might turn into a permanent problem.

Now, there is a biological explanation to all this. I will explain it below. The reason I do this, is to emphasize that this is something that can happen to everybody, and probably has affected everybody on some level. It's a natural reaction from your body designed to protect you, that, in this instance, happens to work against you.

When you become nervous, the body releases catecholamines into the bloodstream. These are designed to restrict the blood flowing to what the body deems unimportant areas, for example your penis, and instead increase the blood flow to areas such as muscles and lungs. In a survival-of-the-fittest sort of sense, the body does this, because these are the areas where increased blood flow will allow you to better defend yourself, against what is causing your anxiety. In this case you don't need it, you want to be a lover not a fighter.

So how can you battle this? How do you stay hard? The answer is to stay in the moment. You have a beautiful woman in front of you. Enjoy it. Look at her. Touch her. Caress her. Kiss her. This is what you want. If you feel that you are starting to get nervous, back up, take a moment and clear your head. There is no rush. This might sound simple, in theory it is, but it can be difficult. However this is how you fix it and the upside is enormous. If you stay positive, if you are convinced the sex will be great, it will be. It's all about enjoying the moment. Focus on your desire. Focus on the foreplay. Once you are able to stay positive and stay in the moment, the problem will take care of itself. You will be and stay hard.